How to stay motivated?

Motivation is like bathing.You’ve got to do it every single day. “



Truer words have never been spoken.

Every single day, we have trouble keeping up with our volatile life.Our lives are changing every second,there is so much happening , so it is totally okay to feel overwhelmed and stressed.

How to deal with this feeling of overwhelmingness? Stay positive and motivated.Easier said than done.How to  stay motivated and inspired, when your life seems to be falling apart?

One thing I have learnt is that like every other thing in our lives, we have to put in effort to stay motivated.

So, there are different ways in which you can boost and charge your motivation radar.I will share few ways, which work for me:

1.Surround yourself with people who make you happy

This is the best way to instantly feel inspired.When feeling low,meet your friend, who is known for his/her humour, or the one who is a dreamer by heart and is full of hope and ideas .Boycott people who are bitter and too critical by nature.Now is not the time to indulge in them.
2.Escape

No, I am not telling you to escape from your woes.I am suggesting you to physically detach yourself from your routine,even if it is just for a day.
You can go for a solo trek or plan a sleepover at your bestie’s place or visit your cousin’s.By doing so,you will give your mind a well deserved break from the monotony.

3.Exercise

Go for a long stroll with your friend,pet or with music,whatever works for you.Though you would at that moment prefer to stay indoor and do nothing but roll around in your bed, I say get up and go out.By doing so,you have won half your battle.

4.Indulge in yourself

Be selfish.Pamper yourself.Indulge in a retail therapy if that makes you happy,  or pay for an hour of spa therapy to feel good.Go to the cinema hall and watch a movie that you are dying to see.Literally do anything and everything to unwind and feel alive.

5.Enroll for a hobby class

This is my personal favourite among the others on the list.Hobby classes are fun and de-stressing.Not only will you be doing something new ,but you will also be meeting new interesting people.Did I emphasize on interesting?

One thing I have observed,after enrolling myself for hobby classes occasionally, is that you always meet interesting people in these classes.And since these people know nothing about you,you can always start fresh and paint a new version of yourself in their eyes.Be whoever you wish to be.Isn’t that cool?

So enroll for a hobby class.Maybe baking,learning a foreign language,zumba,dance,swimming,and the list is endless.
Just remember that staying motivated is an art,that you need to nurture and learn.

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Brush, Brush, Brush

 

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Brush, Brush, Brush.

She raised her heels, burdened her fragile toes with her body weight, and looked in the mirror as she was brushing her teeth.While doing so,with her free hand, she tucked a stubborn grey strand behind her right ear.

She rinsed her mouth, wiped her mouth with the towel kept by the sink and placed it carefully back.

She looked in the mirror and this time she noticed that her hazel eyes had lost the sparks they once held. They now looked tired and stiff. She sighed hopelessly, picked up her toothbrush,squeezed the toothpaste into it and started brushing.

Brush, Brush, Brush.

This time she stared at her skin.Her skin which was once an object of envy among her girlfriends, now resembled the crepe paper she used to  make rose flowers, while teaching origami to the kids from her neighbourhood.

She spat in the sink after she was done and placed her toothbrush back at its place.

She continued to look intently in the mirror for a while, until she finally came out of her trance. She looked around and realised she was in her bathroom but sadly she could not recall anymore why she had come here in the first place. Minutes passed as she stared blankly at herself in the mirror,and then she noticed her yellow teeth. Her yellow smile, as her 8 year old grandson, Colton says.

And right on cue, she heard a knock on her bathroom door and then saw Colton barge in.

“Nana,hurry up! We are leaving in five minutes! You have been brushing your teeth for almost an hour now.” He said exasperated.

“I’ll be out in a jiffy.”,she sheepishly said.And after he left,she picked up her toothbrush, washed it under the tap,squeezed out a generous amount of paste and started brushing her teeth all over again.

Brush, Brush, Brush.

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Our Symphony

via Daily Prompt: Symphony

 

“I dig you damn it!”, I remember you had grabbed my upper arm, and had yelled at me exasperated.

“I like you too “, I had blurted out.

Then after few years, when you had popped the question, I remember our battle.

“Do you really want to marry me?  I am warning you. I am a mess and loving me won’t be easy.”, I had whispered, though deep down I knew I would do anything to make us work.

“It is too late. I am irrevocably in love with you.Marry me.”, you had said with so much intensity, that it was easy for me to lock my doubts in a box and throw the key away.

Then came the worst.Or that is what I thought.

“Shit! We are too young.How could we be so careless?!” I had pounded your chest and pushed you across the room.

“We are in this together, doll.We will get through this” You had tried pacifying me by   putting on a brave face , when you were seconds away from cacking your pants.

And from there on, I realised that we were always in it together. We shared our roses and thorns.

So, today, after growing old together, as I lay my head on your chest and listen to your heart beat, I realise that it resembles a symphony. A symphony which is slowly fading , just like the white lilies on our kitchen table.And at this moment, I wish nothing but to be a part of your symphony.

Our symphony.

 

 

Heart’s Content

  What is that one incident in your life which you are proud of? When someone asks you this, are there a series of moments running in your mind, some recent ones and some slightly faded old ones? It seems almost like a flashback or like a movie is rewinded.Magical, isn’t it?
  Personally, I can’t really pick and point out saying,’Ah…That was the incident which I am most proud of”. I wish it was so easy. When I sit down and actually rack my brains for such incident, an array of glimpses of events of my life come into my vision and I am left to reminisce.   
 To start with, I am proud of moments where I was courageous enough to help others,without having any selfish ulterior motive.It is a human nature to be selfish, to think of yourself first. I am totally acquainted with Darwin’s theory of survival. But as they say, one should never forget that the day one completely stops empathizing or understanding their fellow humans, is the day they cease to be a human.  
   I am proud of those chapters of my life when I did something for someone without knowing their name,or thinking about the returns. These gestures are very miniscule,yet thoughful.There were days when I was feeling low,yet I have smiled at a stranger on the road who seemed to be going through his own share of battles,days when I had too much on my plate,yet I managed to take some time out to help a friend who needed my advice. Days like these make me feel good about myself.  
  One recent incident which crosses my mind while writing this brings a big satisfied smile on my face. It was just a normal day,when I was returning home.Tired and exhausted. I boarded my train from Churchgate station.To say the train was crowded would be an understatement.But that did not surprise me.Having been travelling every day in train for almost 5 years,has made me learn a thing or two about surviving the infamous ‘Mumbai Local’.I somehow trudged my way and managed to stand inside.At the next station,I got a seat.I was delighted. I quickly sat down and removed my earphones and got consumed in my own thoughts.The crowd was increasing with each passing station.I could hear women quarrelling,abusing,picking petty fights.It is quite amusing sometimes to see how people behave and what idiotic stunts they can pull.
    Soon the dreaded Dadar station arrived ,I could see half the train getting down,but at the same time,a new bunch of commuters getting in.It was an utter chaos.The train left the station.Soon,a lady with one baby in her hand and two kids who were not more than 2 or 3 years with her came and stood inside.I wondered how she managed to get in.She looked so tired.One could see how much she struggled to stand with the baby and to manage the two toddlers.I looked around and noticed that people looked at her and noticed but not even one person offered her their seat.Few minutes passed and I decided to take some charge.I got up and gave her the seat.She smiled and denied it.But I insisted and she finally sat down.I could see relief in her eyes.As I was standing,I realised what the world has come to.We have become so busy in our own lives that we have forgotten what it is to bring smile on someone else’s face.I stood till my stop.And while getting down she said thank you and that she appreciates my kind act.Unconsciously,I was wearing a big smile on my face as I went home.      
    Does this qualify me for a noble prize?Of course not!Does this make me a greater person?No.Is it something people may remember?Maybe or maybe not.Then why bother,right?I would say to feel good.As Mother Teresa said rightly,” The good you do today ,will often be forgotten.Do good anyway.”     
   We constantly say that there is no true love anymore in this world,that people are mean,no one is kind.But the truth is that deep down we all have that good in us.We just need to stop hesitating and embrace it.     

   

Express.Love.Live.Life is not only about success,career,money.It is what you miss,while achieving all this.

The virtual hoo-ha

 

A decade back you would have not crossed path with teens who have their personal fancy gadgets and who are a pro at technology. But enter 2016 and you surely won’t be that  flabbergasted when you see a 3-year-old tiny kid operating his iPhone like a pro.Note the key word his.

Today’s kids are the first generation of kids and teens that are growing up with media being at its full boom. Most of the kids after the age of 8 have their own profile on social networking sites such as Face book,Instagram etc today. Social media have become an integral aspect of every youth. So the question to ponder upon is why has social media gained so much hype and popularity among the youths and is the talk of the town?

The prime reason is that the youth masses want to know, share and be heard. This want urges them to be as socially active as possible. Social media give them the perfect platform to flaunt their creativity to the public and helps them connect with the world by a mere click of few buttons. They can share their snaps and views instantly, vent out their emotions and feelings and can connect with the people who appeal to them.

The most important of all, social media assures them that they are socially accepted and cool. Popularity is determined by a person’s digit of followers and online friends. The number of likes and comments on their fb posts and the counts of retweets on their tweet is a matter of pride for a youth today. Peer approval is guaranteed if they are socially active.

The digital era has arrived and is here to stay. It has changed the way the current young generation reacts to peers and their surroundings. If used wisely it is undoubtedly the best gift to humanity. So what are you waiting for? Pull up your sleeves and go on a social media spree!

 

 

 

 

Shooing away the monotony

Are you questioning your existence more often?Do you spend every waking hour in self loathing and self pity?Do you spend hours dreaming about a happier life?
Wonder what has struck you?
You are simply a victim of monotony.
We all have our own fair amount of days where we are doomed by monotony.

Firstly,we need to understand  that it is okay.Not everyone of us can have a perfect life,like those Instagram personalities ,whose life seems to be a vacation on its own.*sigh*Wishful thinking.

The cure?Be reckless.Trust me, sometimes it is the ultimate hack to make things right,to make you forget and to bring back the spark in your life.Unless you are ready to waste your time waiting for some new hot dude or a girl like how the sappy sagas tell you,to spice up your monotonous story.If that is the case then all I can say is may the wait be worthwhile.
But for all the wise ones,what you truly need is to feel alive.Maybe again or maybe for the first time.

You need to feel that pumped up adrenaline rush which hits you so hard that it leaves you dizzy for hours.Do something so spontaneous and so uncalled for that your yesterday’s self would never even dare think about it in their wildest dream.
It can be any random thing you always wanted to do and which was in your bucket list,feeling deprived of your attention.

Wanted to always go on a solo trip to the mysterious country of Mongolia?Do it.Go watch a movie alone in theatre,learn a new language you have never heard of,shop till you drop,call a random number and just start a conversation and the list is endless.Do everything and anything to make your soul happy.
For once,think beyond the boundaries which society has thrust upon us.
Live.Love.Explore.Discover yourself and discover world.

Be like Nike.Just do it! 🙂

The conundrum

 

Was I a bit too over the top?I should have not said that. If I would have handled it that way, then the outcome would have been different.And the list is endless.

Some call it as the’ inner voice’ and many call it the ‘conscience’ .Ain’t these words a tad bit simple for such a complex phenomenon?
Imagine, something so confusing, something which eats you up,frustrates you,yet guides you,is summed up and termed just as conscience.
So what can we call it?

Personally,I would call it our conundrum moments.We all have our own personalized ‘connundrum moments’.

I know right!We are already surrounded by the hustle and bustle of our lives and to top it off we have one more voice demanding our undivided attention.It is something which will not leave you even if one fine day you end up going on a stranded island in search of nirvana.A bit scary,right?

These moments are those which help you self analyse and help you act in a certain way and look at things in a certain perspective.

It can be something as small as the inner turmoil you have after you fight with your partner or the reprimanding voice which makes you feel guilty for not offering water to the delivery guy who looked tired while delivering your much awaited mail.The constant battle with yourself before doing something big ,the  which you give yourself regularly,the way you console yourself after a life changing step,they all count.

A solution to tackle this?Simple. Embrace it.That is the only way to make peace with your self.Never forget that these conundrum moments are like the watchdog,they help you be the better version of yourself.
And who does not want to be their favourite version?!